Transitioning from Engineer to Stay-at-home Mom

On the heels of my Mother’s Day Post, I thought I’d share a little bit about my entry into motherhood…

I was an Electronics Engineer. After a long bout with infertility, I became pregnant and subsequently birthed the most perfect child on the face of the earth. After a 3 month leave, I went back to work, and was completely amazed at my new-found clarity. People were still talking about the same problems that existed when I was there 3 months prior and I had a baby at home that was changing every day. My husband (sensing what I needed and maybe liking the idea of one of us being there for our daughter) suggested that I stay home. So, I, gulp, became a stay-at-home mom.

However…I’m not one of those women who just loves babies and children – sorry, yours might NOT have been that cute; I don’t automatically think all babies are. I was not used to spending time with babies, let alone those that refuse to sleep during the day (thankfully, she slept through the night at an early age.) I’m reflective and need a lot of quiet – babies are not quiet. When my husband came home from work, I handed him the baby and went to my room and closed the door. Months later I went out with whoever would go with me or to the movies by myself and no, I did not have postpartum depression. I was not depressed, I was just going through an adjustment. By the way, my husband appreciated his time to bond with our daughter in his own way without me hovering.

Following are 2 pages from my “All About Me” digital photo book album:

Have you ever made a big life adjustment, perhaps one that you never thought you would?

About Pat Zahn

Pat is a Photo Solutions Superhero specializing in finding simple, painless and quick ways to showcase and enjoy photos and the stories behind them. She's been scrapbooking, well, her whole life, but seriously for over 20 years, and as a business for over 15 years. It's easy to figure out that she loves purple, chocolate, good food and a smile on the faces of the people around her.
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6 responses to Transitioning from Engineer to Stay-at-home Mom

  1. This is so lovely, Pat! I’m happy to know more about your story and hear this happy ending for you. I can completely relate to needing quiet, and I congratulate you on recognizing your style and needs so you could create a mothering life that worked for you. Your pages are beautiful–of courseyou found time to do your beautiful work!

    Judy Stone-Goldman
    The Reflective Writer
    “My cat owns me, my clutter stymies me, my writing frees me. Word maven loves—and learns from—ordinary life.”

  2. Oh, Pat, I so enjoyed this post and hearing even just a bit about your transition from pro-woman to Mom. First off, it has to be said that those pages are gorgeous! I see the artist in you! And as for the transition, I’ve seen my daughter-in-law make this trek too and it’s not an easy one. I think what may have helped you is that you didn’t lose touch with your own needs and found ways to meet them–like greeting hubby at the door with baby! I am not a baby person either and not only cherish my time alone, but MUST HAVE it to stay in relationship with my sanity. From everything I’ve seen from you over the months, it sounds like you not only weathered the transition, but created a whole new world through scrapbooking! We never know…

    • Thanks Maridel. I am pretty good at looking after myself and I’m blessed with a wonderful husband who really understood that it was a big change for me (and he waited a long time to be a daddy so didn’t mind spending alone time with his girl.) I think it helped that we were married for awhile before having our daughter. We had time to know each other and our needs first. There is no doubt that scrapbooking can be therapeutic and I’m also blessed to really get to know others through their photo albums.

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